What is the real meaning of marriage?

To some, marriage is a symbol of commitment and happiness. To others, it’s an outdated institution that serves no purpose.

Marriage, Marry, Married

While no one is going to tell you how your marriage should be, it’s worth exploring why you want one. Marriage doesn’t mean what it used to be, but neither does anything else in society.

If you want a long-term relationship with another person, you can make that work whether or not you have a piece of paper from a government telling you it’s valid.

A recent study found that women who marry before age 25 are more likely to stay married than those who get married at older ages.

This can be attributed to the fact that more than 90% of all divorces occur when couples are younger than 35 years old, so getting married before you turn 25 can help you avoid falling into this statistic.

While there’s no magic age or specific marital status after which divorce becomes impossible, there are many other reasons to consider marrying earlier rather than later, including your finances, health, and children. Here are eight reasons why you need to marry before you are 25 years old.

Tougher to find someone after 25

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As you get older, it’s more difficult to find a spouse with whom you can spend your life. In 2012, the Pew Research Center found that only 6% of adults married between the ages of 18 and 24 were already divorced, compared with 15% of those who married between ages 25 and 34.

Of course, many people eventually do remarry after age 35; however, if you’re in a rush or want children soon or don’t want to live through a divorce again then marrying younger is not just advisable but imperative.

Settling for second best

Every year, thousands of people get engaged only to break it off before they walk down the aisle. While that may be good news for brides-to-be, who get a more bearable option than divorcee as their title on Facebook, settling for second best usually means that you’ll be miserable in your marriage once you do take it.

If you have doubts about getting married after dating for a few years, don’t hold out hope that things will magically change once you exchange vows. Don’t let your emotions cloud your judgement; if it isn’t working now, it probably won’t work when you’re married. Trust me: waiting five years doesn’t make much of a difference!

Older mothers are more likely to have problems


Researchers at Aarhus University in Denmark looked at Danish women who gave birth between 1980 and 2004. They found that older mothers were more likely to have babies with birth defects such as cleft palate, limb reduction problems and club foot.

In fact, older first-time mothers are twice as likely to have a child with a major congenital abnormality than younger first-time mothers. Older mothers also had an increased risk of delivering a stillborn baby or infant who died shortly after birth.

Starting a family early

It’s never too early to start a family! Studies show that couples who have children within their first seven years of marriage are less likely to divorce. For example, a recent study published in Demography found that among 2,287 married Swedish couples, those who had children within their first four years of marriage were 37 percent less likely to divorce than those who waited until after four years of marriage.

So if you’re thinking about tying-the-knot or recently hitched, it might be time for a baby. In fact, the earlier a couple starts their family, the more time they will have together as a married couple with no other responsibilities, says Dr. John Clark, senior advisor for LifePlan Medical Group and author of When Harry Met Sally & Forever.

Less time for yourself

While it’s true that couples spend less time doing things by themselves as they get older, especially after kids come along, getting married before you’re 25 means you miss out on a lot of your 20s.

A recent study found that women in their late 20s are better able to keep stress under control and do better when it comes to marital satisfaction than their counterparts who were married during their 30s or 40s.

If you don’t feel ready for marriage at a young age, it could be because you don’t have enough time yet for yourself; relationships require compromises, and compromising on an issue you haven’t had time for yet can lead to less-than-desirable results later on.

Higher risk of health issues

Research shows that people who marry later in life are more likely to experience health issues. In fact, a study found that married people were 20 percent less likely than those who never married or had civil unions or domestic partnerships to die during a given time period.

They also had a lower risk of developing certain health problems, such as cancer, stroke and heart disease. The benefits are thought to be due to spousal support and having another person in your life with whom you can share stressors that come up throughout your days. The same researchers have also linked getting married before age 30 to higher levels of happiness over time than marrying later in life.

For example, couples who got married younger reported being happier five years after marriage than their older counterparts did. These results suggest that it’s not just because younger couples may be newly infatuated; they will feel happy with their partners later on too. Overall, young marriages appear to contribute positively to overall wellbeing.

Women are less fertile after 30

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That doesn’t mean they’re not capable of getting pregnant, but as women get older, their chances of conception decrease. In fact, after age 35, a woman’s fertility starts to decline faster. For example, a 30-year-old has about a 20 percent chance of becoming pregnant each month and each year that drops to 15 percent at age 40 and five percent at age 45. By 50 years old, it’s only one percent. (source)

Everything becomes more expensive and difficult
The later you leave it, the harder it becomes. The longer you wait, the more people expect you’ll get married—or even more shockingly, start a family. It’s not fair, but there are very few things that people expect less from young men than they do marriage and children. If you want to know what letting yourself go looks like as a man, just picture yourself in your 20s and then imagine what it would look like if other people expected those results at 40 or 50 years old or 60 years old.

Conclusion
There are a lot of risks involved in marrying before age 30. But if you follow these eight guidelines, you will be able to get married young and avoid many of those risks. Are you willing to take these risks? Will you be ready when a relationship turns into something more serious? In order for marriage not to make your life more difficult, it is important that both you and your partner get along very well—but how do you know if that is really true? How can we find out how compatible we are? Find out here!

 

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